break up in friendship (part1)

 Ending things are difficult, be it your favorite tub of ice cream 
or series or friendship, Telling that it's officially over is difficult
because as humans we don't like change we tend to get used to the feeling of normalcy 
we tend to dislike the change but only the fittest can survive so we accept it and life goes on and on...
   
     In this post  lets talk about break up in friendship .
and one thing before I start , Breakup in friendship hurts more than Romantic breakup
and the pain is never ending it feels like divorce PERIODT


Though it might be difficult you need to let go because sometimes holding on hurts more than letting go 
and sometimes it becomes almost difficult to hold on to them  
what ever the reason maybe you need to understand that they are not in your life right now. 
Just the way you can't wear your childhood clothes , you move on 
You can't keep someone who doesn't want to be in your life

I mean you cant tie a leash around someones neck or handcuff them just because you don't wanna lose them

No matter what you just can't force someone to stay.

because in every relationship there is a lot of forgiveness involved. It's a deliberate choice to stay!

now that they have chose some thing else don't act like a stone because you are not ,
you are human act like one . you are allowed to make big deal out of things that hurt you 
you are allowed to cry,  and grieve because that's what is healthy for you .

You need to FEEL it and dissolve it !!!

Love yourself so much that no one will ever walk over you and move on. 
One thing you should know is that when someone leaves you easily it
is because you give them the chance to do this ,

 don't allow anyone to take a place in pedestal just like that,
A runner runs for coming first to win, they earn it!

 The same way let people prove themselves , Let them earn it !!!

Trust people but keep your eye open 
and just because someone hurts you
Doesn't mean you need to hate them or close all the doors 

HELL NOOO

you need to feel the pain 
analyse the situation and move on 
if you carry hate you will block love and all the blessings 
after all its just a new lesson you have learned 
 
love yourself it might be difficult but totally worth it

love ,

samreen

Comments

Post a Comment

buzz of the town

sibling estrangment (part 1)

Image
  I have seen so many times people feel bad for individuals who don't have siblings but no one seems to talk about toxic siblings or sibling estrangement. I ALWAYS think about how my life would be if I didn't have any siblings!!!!   I haven't spoken to my brother, let's call him “A”, since march 2020, when we had the worst explosion of argument right in front of our mother,And now neither of us is even interested to talk or try to rebuild the connection  While I have accepted the estrangement in many ways it has brought me a lot of relief.  BUT It also aches, because being a HSP(hyper sensitive person) it's never easy for me to give up on anything. Though it may sound strange, but it is quite common that people choose to stop talking or cutting ties with their siblings While i was trying to read articles and make some sense psychologically as to why this happens, I came across this quote from an interview that said  "You can divorce your sister as well as y...
Read more

STAY IN THE PRESENT!

Image
“If you feel anxiety or depression, you are not in the present. You are either anxiously projecting the future or depressed and stuck in the past. The only thing you have any control over is the present moment; simple breathing exercises can make us calm and present instantly.” ― Tobe Hanson I was talking to my friend earlier and she said,"I always fear about future so much that i am not able to enjoy my present" and that statement made me realize   aren't we all somewhere fearful of what is going to come in our life. Being  depressed about past and anxious about future  is the new normal,isn't it?.  We often think about our "problems"   but we don't realize the actual problem is us and our thinking , our perception. 3 ways to stay in present 1.control over thoughts: I swear half of our issues will be solved if we stopped thinking so much,Sometimes we just need to let go all of it (the hurt, the pain )instead of thinking about it because we hold on to p...
Read more

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSISTS ?

Do you know how exactly the word  "NARCISSISM" came to existence ??  so the story goes like there was a Greek boy named Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection and died staring at it(self obsession!!!)  however,narcissism  turns out to be more complicated than what we perceive.And to spot a narcissist,is an art and I am going to help you get yourself out from this abuse cycle and spot them from a distance       By definition this people are very self obsessed they don't care about others. They as person are good manipulators basically want someone around them that will feed their inflated persona.  So if you look from a bird eye perspective there are 2 types of narcissists   the grandiose type  and  the vulnerable type there more sub types but lets just understand the basics first  SHALL WE???   1. Grandiose Narcissists Personality Type: This are the type of people that introduce you to the subject of ...
Read more