sibling estrangment (part 1)

 I have seen so many times people feel bad for individuals who don't have siblings but no one seems to talk about toxic siblings or sibling estrangement. I ALWAYS think about how my life would be if I didn't have any siblings!!!!  

I haven't spoken to my brother, let's call him “A”, since march 2020, when we had the worst explosion of argument right in front of our mother,And now neither of us is even interested to talk or try to rebuild the connection 

While I have accepted the estrangement in many ways it has brought me a lot of relief.  BUT It also aches, because being a HSP(hyper sensitive person) it's never easy for me to give up on anything.

Though it may sound strange, but it is quite common that people choose to stop talking or cutting ties with their siblings

While i was trying to read articles and make some sense psychologically as to why this happens, I came across this quote from an interview that said  "You can divorce your sister as well as your husbands." and tbh i couldn't agree more. According to Clinical Psychologist DR ILLAN BEN He told Insider: "As siblings grow up, their priorities change and they start to discover new priorities elsewhere." apart from priorities, personality also plays an important  role as to how your relationship will workout if you don't have anything in common you are likely to stop talking  or cut ties from them

one of the most surprising things I read while researching this topic was that a lot of time individuals store in "grudges".These can be something in childhood that might have affected them.

I and my brother actually have 5 years of gap though it might not seem a lot it does makes a lot of difference. As kids we had a very healthy and loving relationship but as “A” entered his teenage years he became a little aggressive to the point that threatening of using violence became normal. Though I don't know what future holds, I hope peace becomes his only way of life. Yes it  becomes really awkward sharing why i don't have a loving relationship or when people say things like “blood is thicker than water”however know that as long you feel content and happy don't give a damn to what  people because at the end of the day it's your life!! PERIODT 

Comments

Secret life said…
Very thoughtful!!more power to you!!
21 December 2020 at 19:30
ADITI ANINDITA said…
Powerful. Impactful.⚡
21 December 2020 at 20:58
Asif shah said…
Such a powerful words!!
21 December 2020 at 22:57
Anonymous said…
Very nice write. So good handwritten. Love you the write.
22 September 2021 at 23:59
Anonymous said…
Plis msg back
I yur big pankha
10 October 2021 at 20:22
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